Are you trying to be liked by everybody?

Do you fear not being liked by everybody? You are not alone! It’s very human to feel liked and appreciated. But trouble brews up, if the “want” to be liked turns into a “need” to be liked.

It’s great to be wanting to be liked by others because it can help you connect with people, but the need to be liked could lead to stress and make you into a “people pleaser.” I think many of us are in this category.

The line is thin but these quotes will help you find the right balance.

Be there for others, never stop being kind, but be fair to yourself as well. You deserve it. Take care, my dear readers!

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Why can’t an elephant go on a trampoline?

“Why can’t an elephant go on a trampoline?” Tootoo, the Indian elephant wondered.

Why was Tootoo not allowed to go on a trampoline at the Forest Book Park while his friends were having fun? It was not because of his floppy ears, large body or big teeth, then what was it?

Find out all about Tootoo and his adventures in my upcoming book – Elephant on a Trampoline!

The ebook version of the book would be free for a certain number of days. So, you will have a chance to download it for FREE from Amazon (available globally – coming soon)! Follow this space and stay tuned. Thanks for checking in 🙂

A Happy Diwali Message to You!

Happy Diwali

This #Diwali, may you and I turn towards our inward light and walk on an illuminated path!!!

…A path cleaned up through self-observation, lit up with diyas of hope and decorated with rangolis of creativity….offering fireworks of laughter, sweetened with challenges of life… and leading us towards our highest Self.

#HappyDiwali to you and yours.

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If you are a job seeker, do read the 5th tip!

Every day, millions of people sit in front of the computer searching for a job. With eyes scanning the screen, fingers typing that perfect cover letter, mind in a state of agitation and heart filled with prayer, every job seeker, searches for that Elusive Perfect Job. It is especially challenging to get a job, if you are trying after a gap or do not have professional connections.

For most, getting a job is a matter of bread and butter while others look in order to be in a better work situation …but whatever may be the reason – It’s disheartening to read the rejection letter after being extremely hopeful about getting a job.

“Unfortunately, you are no longer under consideration for this position…” – this line in a job rejection letter is terribly disheartening. It may ruin one’s entire day or maybe week! But the fact remains that the only way to finding a job is to be on the move… to explore! So, while the search is on, do remember some of these tips from your blogger friend!

  1. If you have applied for 40 jobs, aim for 400 – The higher the count, the better the chances are to get employment. Also, while searching, you will come across a variety of job requirements and explore new career avenues, which you never thought, existed. Job search is a great learning experience in itself.
  2. You are a job explorer rather than a job seeker – You did not lose that job, you have just been directed to a new path on your way to your job. Don’t take it personally, it’s not about you, it’s about their job requirements. You are a job explorer! You go find or create a new path!
  3. Add that element of fun to your job search – Tired, bored, exhausted from a job search? Why not add some element of fun to it. Make a peppy, off-beat resume or maybe, appear for on-the-spot hiring events (even though unrelated), just for the heck of it. You never know what you will come across.
  4. If you feel nervous about interviews, think this way! – You’ve got an opportunity to talk about yourself. In the world of social media, everyone is talking about their achievements. But here is a chance to talk about yourself to someone, who is so eager to listen. So, go ahead, be chatty and talk about yourself. Also, you get a bonus chance to interview the interviewer too. When you have the chance to ask questions, do ask – what qualities and skills are they looking for in an ideal candidate? And what are the daily challenges in the job? You will get many important answers from his response.
  5. The one quality that will get you through the most trying times is – Resilience. Don’t worry about dwindling confidence, lack of motivation, self-defeating thoughts or lack of connections. They are what they are – Just thoughts! Your job is to keep exploring and applying.
  6. Tap the Hidden Job Market- Be on the lookout for the Hidden Job market. It exists but does not get advertised. It’s potential can be tapped through networking, volunteering or reaching out to people.
  7. During the job search, take out a few hours to upskill yourself. Get certified or take a course. It helps!
  8. Raise the target as your search continues – If you have applied 400 times, make sure you raise the target. In the face of such tremendous willpower, how will the elusive job, stay elusive?
  9. Congratulations! We are pleased to offer you a job at our company. We think that your experience and skills will be a valuable asset to our company.” – Read these words and envision the joy associated with them. It will take you nearer to your goal!

Breathe, Believe and Good Luck! And, congratulations in advance.

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Small Things #31 – A Gift of 21 Inspiring Thoughts for Every Child

Today, I came across a treasure of inspiring thoughts for kids in my notes app. These thoughts are great for character and confidence building. I guess I had put it together for my older one, when he was probably 5 and the little one was a toddler.

As I read the list today, that is four years later, I felt the thoughts are still relevant for them. I thought of sharing it with you, my blog friends! I hope this gift of 21 inspiring and positive quotes help you and your kids in some way. ( Copy and take a print out if you wish).

For Dear Kids

1. I never, never, never give up. I keep trying until I achieve what I want. I am successful because I try.😍

2. I am creative when I paint, write, dance, play music, draw or do any form of art.🤡

3. I am responsible and my parents trust me.✌️

4. I know how to listen. When I listen, I show others that I care.😸

5. If I am kind, I have kind friends. Friends are attracted to kindness.👬

6. I think for myself. I know that in every situation, I have a choice. I know that smart choices are choices that are good for me, that do not hurt anyone including myself.🙋🏻

7. Sharing with others makes me feel good and makes them feel good too.🤝

8. Smiling is contagious. I smile at everyone. I smile at the bus driver, at my teachers and at people on the street. When I smile, others usually smile back.😇

9. When I am not happy, I can always choose to think of the good things that have happened to me and change my mood.😎

10. I am honest and say what is on my mind in a nice way without hurting others.😉

11. When I am in trouble, I can ask for help. Many people around me can help me.🤗

12. It is normal to have good and bad feelings. Bad feelings go away eventually.🌈🌞

13. Sport is for fun. When I lose in a game, I am still happy for participating and having fun.🏃🏻🏃🏻

14. When something goes wrong instead of feeling bad about it, I concentrate on what I can do next time to make it better.☃️

15. I know what good attention is and what bad attention is. I attract good attention by being kind, successful, friendly, supportive and happy. It is the better attention to attract.✨

16. I take care of my body by eating healthy and resting enough.🥙

17. I am unique and special in this world.🤴🤴

18. I am grateful for what I have and every night before bed time I say words of thanks for something I have.🙏🏻🙏🏻

19. When I need to do something that seems hard, I break it down to small tasks to make it easier for me.🙃

20. I have good manners and healthy hygienic habits🧴

21. My parents and family love me the most!👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

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Quotes on Nishkama Karma Yoga

Ever wondered that the profound concept of Nishkama Karma Yoga (Selfless Action with Detachment) is contradictory in nature? How do we find inaction in action? And how do we do anything selflessly without any expectation? We are humans, right?

There cannot be any motivation if we are not result-oriented. Hmmm! But this contradiction is the beauty of Nishkama Karma Yoga. If we go to heart of it, we will know that this great philosophy mentioned in the Bhagavd Gita ensures perfection minus stress and anxiety. And the ultimate reaper of any selfless action is the doer!

We have to understand this – Nishkama Karmayoga is about detachment not disconnect. Detachment is different from disconnect. Disconnect would stop karma altogether detachment will bring karma to the center instead of the result factor. To a detached person, all enjoyment comes from just the action and activity, the result is surrendered. Here are a few quotes that underscore the meaning, the path and the greatness of Nishkama Karma Yoga. These quotes will hopefully dissolve the contradictory factor and make us evolve into our better selves.

What is Nishkama Karma Yoga – This quote helps us understand the concept

If one can joyfully involve in any activity, that is Karma Yoga. If one does it with stressful effort and a motive, it is just karma, not yoga.

Here is why a Nishkama Karma Yogi stays stress free and gets a better result automatically!

How to practice Nishkama Karma Yoga – How to remove the result part from the action part?

Tricky, right? Love and faith is the answer. Nishkama Karma Yoga can only happen if you love somebody or something so completely that you work just for the heck of it. Appreciation and recognition is a bonus! For those who believe in God, every action is an act of surrender. The devotee believes He is the doer, the act and the result, so he stays blissful. And did you know it is being practiced as a great management mantra in some of the big organizations?

Why is Nishkama Karma Yoga so amazing?

If you have been struggling from not getting the desired results, try practicing Nishkama Karma Yoga! Surrender every hard work to the almighty. Everything will fall in place! Haribol!

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Free dog eBook for kids – Happy’s Hairy Tale – The Corona Cut

Finally, here is my fourth book (Print as well as Free eBook Version) – ‘Happy’s Hairy Tale – The Corona Cut’. The book will be available free for a limited time only from Oct 8 – Oct 11 on Amazon.com – (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KHL8SHT) and Amazon.in (https://www.amazon.in/dp/B08KHL8SHT).

Please download the ebook (only ebook version is free) and do leave a review if it connects with your kids. Also, share it with others if you find it good.


About the Book: Happy, the handsome dog, loves his fancy hairstyle and hates any kind of change in life. But then, Coronavirus happens, and life changes in many ways. Happy’s favorite dog parlor shuts due to the pandemic lockdown, making him anxious about his locks.

Worse still, his Dad suddenly decides to cut his hair at home! Happy thinks the experiment will fail and he resists the change. What will happen to Happy’s amazing hair? Will his friends laugh at his Corona Cut? This delightful and humorous tale is all about adapting to the ‘new normal’.

Message: This funny dog book encourages children to accept change and find good things in new situations. The book will help kids connect to the current world scenario and help them realize – change brings opportunity! It is an inspiring and humorous bedtime read for kids between 5 – 10 years old.
The book will help raise positive kids who would learn to embrace sudden change in life.

Please watch the video preview of the book.

Check out the print version as well which is priced at $6.49 – https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KQBYRDZ (US only). Your feedback is extremely important and very welcome. Thanks again for being a great support!
Shivangi

Note – If you have problems downloading the book, please wait and try again after a while. Contact me if you are unable to do it.

The Ideal Inspirational Blogger Award

It’s been long since I last wrote answers to questions posed by a fellow blogger but I thought of writing for Kunakshi Kapoor. I am grateful to Kunakshi for nominating me for ‘The Ideal Inspirational Blogger Award’ (BTW these awards are ways of the blogger community to show appreciation for each other). Please visit Kunakshi’s lovely blog at https://thepennedsoul.wordpress.com/ and explore her interesting works.

Now moving on to the questions she asked me:

1) When were you most scared? I was in a pet store and a huge, black dog came very close and began to sniff me. That was before we got Happy, our pet dog. I felt I was going to get a nasty bite so I reacted rudely and screamed – Take him away! The owner of the dog was pretty upset and muttered that I was not loving and friendly. Well, I was so scared I just wanted to leave the store. Now, that we have a dog I realize why the lady was upset..

2) What does passion mean to you? Passion is the brightest color in a painting, sweetest note in music and mystical words in poetry. It is the driving force behind every kind of creative activity. It is the precious energy that makes dreams possible!

3) Define life in a sentence? Life is a spectacle where only I am the actor, the director and the audience! 

4) What was your most funniest moment? There have been countless funny moments in my life. One of the most embarrassing was when I used a ball pen to sign on iPad instead of stylus, shocking teachers in my son’s class.

5) What does writing mean to you? Writing is my favorite way of expression. Many people use speech or other ways to communicate, I like to write.

The rules of the award are as follows :

  • Thank the person who have nominated you and provide a link back to his/her blog.
  • Answer their questions.
  • Nominate up to 9 other bloggers and ask them 5 new questions.
  • Notify the nominees through their blog by visiting and commenting on their blog.
  • List the rules and display the “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” logo.
  • Provide the link of the Award creator of ideal inspiration blogger award as Rising Star from https://idealinspiration.blog/.
  • And finally , the people whom l nominate for this award …

I would like to invite all my fellow bloggers and readers for this award. You are all inspiring and I marvel at the lovely things you write. Do take up the open challenge if you wish. And answer one or all of these challenging questions, if you want and leave a link back to my blog. 

  • Q. What if you could be invisible for a day? What would you do if no one could see or hear you?
  • Q. What would you do if you could stop time?
  • Q. What is the most shocking news item you’ve ever heard?
  • Q. If you were a tree, where would you stand and why?
  • Q. The most amazing life lesson you have learnt recently?

Be well and stay blissful!

A PAUSE…in the History of Time!

‘London Statue STOP’ – the denner would yell and all of us would stop, statue-like in whatever positions we were.

Those who moved would be out of the game, some would nudge and poke, some would hastily change positions, while many would simply enjoy the pause. But that pause was for a game and this pause amid Coronavirus is for…life itself. Distressing, funny, confusing, unprecedented…

India has locked down completely, USA is in turmoil with more than 3.8 million unemployed people, Spain and Italy are under great pressure, countries are taking desperate measures.

For the first time in history, no one is in control of the situation. And humans don’t like not being in control. Who is the denner? When will he say – Go?

This sudden pause…a break in our fast paced lifestyles is toppling, wrecking, shaking and affecting many lives. Many people have readily halted while many are still coming to a screeching halt. Each one of us has been affected in some way or the other.

Suddenly, everything we ever knew has paused. And there are grim realities and uncertainties to deal with – life, family, jobs, education, salary, food…! And moreover, there is no end in sight to this ordeal.

Yes, for the first time we realize no one has control over this situation. Presidents, Prime Ministers, Leaders, Millionaires… no one.

And no one knows how this crisis will come to an end – may be a cure, or unknown cause or certain steps would work. But one thing is for sure – we will prevail. Until then, we have to pause and wait.

And in this pause, there are great questions and realizations –

Where did we go wrong?

We need so little to survive, so why the greed?

What were we running after?

Has anything ever been in our hands?

What’s the use of power, wealth and luxuries when an invisible, dead virus can threaten it?

What is the most important thing for us, right now?

Who are the people in our support system? Are we taking care of them?

If we are to die tomorrow, what would matter most?

What selfless deeds have we done?

Where does our hope lie?

How important are we to others?

The answers to this questions are humbling and point out to all those things that are truly dear to our hearts. Just that much is really required for life.

Rest of the things are just extras but the people, ideals and things that matter to us in times like this form our core.

And in this pause there is great understanding. Just like the silence after AUM is as powerful as the mantra itself, similarly, this pause is profound. Who knows the human race might change for better after experiencing this crisis!

So let’s be there for others, practice gratitude and be loving, sensitive and kind… for we never know what others are going through.

One day, the denner up there will say – Go. And life will start running and go back to normal. We will return to our ordinary existence but the way we endured and handled the crisis during this extraordinary time will stay with us forever.

Heroes are not always those who fight and win but those spirited people who brave the crisis with courage, determination, cheerfulness and dignity.

This pause is an opportunity to realize and be our best self. We owe this to us and to all other living beings. Let’s make the best use of this PAUSE.

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