Just a Thought – Rejection

Every winner reaches the top by climbing a mountain of rejection, refusing to get buried after an avalanche of disappointments. And then, getting up to climb back again with renewed determination.

Winners know that reaching the top is not in their hands but climbing up is and that is what they do till the end… relentlessly, tirelessly and zealously.

Winners do not fear disappointments or rejections. They know the mountain of rejection is sacred, because the process of climbing, falling down, getting hurt and starting again shows them what they have got and what they are made of…!

No, nothing can break their spirit… let alone the mountain of Rejection. Because winners know that nothing is more stronger than a resilient will made of their unyielding spirit! They will just not give up!

Get up and keep climbing friends, that is the most important part!

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Obituary – Rajmata Prafulla Manjari Devi

She was a queen and died like a queen on the morning of January 8, with a grand procession marching with her to the cremation grounds – Mangardaha Ghat on banks of the River Koel at Daltonganj. My grandma was 103 years old.

And with her ended a very long and amazing chapter in the history of Chainpur Estate, one of the prominent royal families of Chota Nagpur Region in Jharkhand, India.

Princess Prafulla Manjari Devi, the third daughter of the Ruling Chief of Kharsawan (Raja Ram Chandra Singh Deo) loved and celebrated life just like Krishna, her ishtdeva. In her anecdotes, she would talk about those blissful girlhood days she had spent at Kharsawan that included travels, visits to Calcutta theatres, swimming lessons, education, elaborate religious ceremonies and a life of luxury.

After marrying my grandfather, Raja Brijdeo Narain Singh in 1941, her life took a new turn. She often told us that my grandfather looked so handsome as a bridegroom that people came in huge numbers at Kharsawan just to have a look at him. There was a train booked for the baraat and the marriage was recorded on a movie camera at that time. Otherwise all the elaborate ceremonies were a blur for her as she had to sit covered from head to toe with ornaments and bridal wear.

Accompanied by the usual retinue of cooks, servants and maids, she came to live at Chainpur fort and experienced a huge cultural change. My grandfather’s side observed purdah and ladies did not show their faces. She often smiled talking about how she was expected to walk, talk and live a veiled life in the royal household.

Communication was another issue. My grandma spoke Oriya and broken Hindi while no one in her new home knew the language. But her mother-in-law (my great grandmother) was kind enough to let her have the upper floor of the Garh where she was free to live comfortably and interact with her personal Oriya speaking staff.

Gradually, times changed, and the family moved to Chainpur Bungalow at Daltonganj town, a short distance from Chainpur. By this time, India had become free from British rule and was declared a democracy.

All the princely states got integrated into the country. My grandma adjusted to the changed and moved on to focus on education and subsequent marriages of her eight children.

After the death of my grandfather in 1977, she faced some great challenges, but the iron lady did not crumble under pressure. Instead she laughed at it all. She spent most part of her life at Daltonganj amongst grand kids and great grand kids.

She was a champion for girls education and donated land for school, hospitals and public welfare.

Towards the end of her life, she moved back to Chainpur, where she had once lived as a blushing new bride and breathed her last there. She felt no pain as she passed away in her sleep, surrounded by family.

Thus, ended the life of my grandma whose ringing laughter made people smile. She was regal, strong and spiritually exalted – the gift she passed on to subsequent generations. She is survived by three sons, four daughters and grandchildren. She will be sorely missed and mourned by all the family members of Chainpur.

Dadi Ma, we will not forget all the lessons you taught us and how you touched our lives in your own way. Hari Bol!

(Images contributed by Family)

(To read one of the anecdotes, click here.)

(To read Hindi newspapers article on her, click here)

Just a Thought – The Retreat Within!

You feel immensely empowered when you carve a retreat within yourself – the charging space that you can get back to whenever the world overwhelms you.

And you come back from it rejuvenated, relaxed and full of energy to get on with life and its challenges. And you hold the power to return to that space anytime! No expenses problems, no bookings just discipline, faith and immense will power.

And the experience – priceless!🙏🏻

(Picture – Shivangi’s Phone)

Happy 2020

Dear,

The year 2020 marks not only the beginning of a new year but also the birth of a brand new decade. Outwardly, we are surrounded by sameness. Same life, same people and same routine. So, what is fresh about 2020? The freshness lies in our enthusiastic ‘approach’ to the New Year with all our resolutions, promises and hopes of a fresh new start.

New Year is really all about our openness to it! We are willing so we make things happen in the beginning. But then the old routine life and mundane existence takes over and we fall back to the old pattern. If we stay open and our approach stays the same for the rest of the year, great things could happen. Magic, really! So, my resolution this year is to be enthusiastic and open to all dimensions of new possibilities.

And my wishes for you are not restricted to just one day of the year! Here is hoping that may you stay open and receive more and more bliss, love, peace and prosperity every moment of your life! May you be your highest self!

Happy 2020 and…..always!

Love,

Shivangi

(Image: Google)

Paw Things#3 – Do Shollie pups grow this fast?

It’s more than 4 months since our impulsive adoption of the Shepherd-Collie mix puppy – Happy Singh and what an enormous learning experience it has been for a dog-agnostic person like me! I have become good at intuitively taking care of all his needs when the dog-father and dog-brothers are away.

He is a calm, nice dog and growing up so fast that it surprises everyone around. I think the credit exclusively goes to the dog-father and his endless efforts for Happy’s well being.

I often wonder what his full-growth size would be? Do Shollie pups grow this fast? Although, he looks big almost like an adult-dog but actually, he is still a puppy (He will mature into an adult in about 18 months, says Google).

Even Happy’s doctor remarked about his size. My first experience at the veterinary clinic was kind of great. I felt it was just like going to pediatrics. A cheerful place for dogs, the clinic had dog posters, rules for good behavior, dog songs and treats. Happy was scared in the beginning but his anxiety left after sniffing around the place.

And the nurses and doctor were very nice to him. Immunization shots hardly hurt him as he was busy licking treats fed by the nurse. We were told to feed him less, if we wanted his potty training to go smooth. He was declared a good healthy dog after the check-up.

I am also observing my kids’ relationship with Happy. The older kid had always been fearless about the dog and deeply caring like his father. And now, the same feelings are developing in the little one and he makes sure that Happy is happy. Dogs are really good for kids! As for me, I like to see Happy around and occasionally pet him. And he is a big fan of my chapatis (the shape doesn’t matter to him…lol)!

Happy is now well adjusted in the household and the challenges are fewer for me. Winters have arrived and thankfully Happy Singh loves the snow, so he readily goes out for doing business. Yay!

That’s the update for now. Will keep you posted about more #Happy things. Warm wishes for the Holiday Season!

10 Thoughts on Moving Out of Comfort Zone

After almost a decade of being a stay at home mom and a homemaker, I am thinking of pushing myself out of this comfortable, cozy zone that I created on a mental and physical plane by taking up a job. And lo, crazy thoughts are bugging me already! So, it is like I see a stern version of me (Scary Shivangi) speaking in an automated voice as I go about doing my daily work.

My automated voice talks to me about challenges of moving out of the comfort zone as well as other problems I might face. And I tell myself that mostly every mom or person faces many challenges after a big career gap. I know the professional world has changed since the last time I was there but still there is always a way out. However, the automated voice continues to throw googlies at me. Here are some of those questions –

1) Mornings are busy packing lunches and getting kids ready for school, how will you manage through the rush?

2) You love to sit quietly and just ponder, you will miss it in a rush to make it to work.

3) The weather conditions in Minnesota makes it unattractive to go out and work. Why should you harass yourself by going out in the snow?

4) Are you good enough to get a job of your liking?

5) If you do get a job of your liking, will you be able to handle the demands?

6) If you get an easy job that would be different from your skill set, will you go for it?

7) If you go for doing something on your own, it will take a lot of time and commitment to get monetary benefits. Are you ready for it?

8) Apart from leaving your comfort zone, will you be inviting stress in your life by taking on additional work?

9) In a rush to monetize your free time, will you become less creative?

10) Look at your career gap, it is huge. You will need an enormous effort to revamp your lifestyle!

So, there you go! You see, so many crazy, disjointed but relevant questions are bugging me. My working friends always tell me – sab ho jata hai (everything falls in place). And I hope they are right! I am sure there exists a harmonious path that will balance out everything. The only problem is I should be willing and motivated enough to take up the challenge of stepping out of the comfort zone.

I have written this post to vent out my thoughts. Thank you for patiently reading and understanding. And if you have any advice, do share, right away please.

(Images courtesy Google)

Experimenting with Lunapic

Yesterday, I came across the site Lunapic and was impressed with the digital filters and effects it offered. It had a variety of art effects, tools, animations, adjustments and combinations that could really transform an image radically. And the best part – it was completely FREE. You don’t need to even sign up (I know signing up is a big pain, especially remembering the password). So, today, after sending off the kids to school and hubby to office, I quickly returned to it. After applying a variety of effects on my random sketches, I discovered a treasure under the tab – Art. On clicking Famous Artistic Styles under it, I applied the painting styles of the master painters like Leonardo, Rembrandt, Monet, Picasso and I was mighty impressed. It was quick, easy and convenient. Do check out these –

Lunapic is really cool and I have read it works wonders on photos as well. I am hoping to continue with the experimentation until I get the style best suited for my sketches. Well, I have spent the entire morning and half of the afternoon in this ‘idle’ pursuit (lol) and I must attend to worldly tasks. Thanks for checking my blog out! BTW if you do know about Lunapic, kindly let me know what has worked for you. Thanks again and best wishes always, dears!